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March 07, 2017


Esther Kottke

No need to post
But I do want to let you know that I read your blog everyday and have learned a great deal from you. You are always pragmatic and knowledgeable. I, too, am very concerned about what is happening in our country and am committed to actively resisting. I am sad about your diagnosis but am very glad that you are open about the process. Our culture is so secretive about illness and death. Your sharing makes me feel a bit braver and accepting as I consider my future troubles. We all have a voice in helping each other through this life. Much Aloha to you; you are often in my thoughts.


I'm sorry to hear this. Please let me know if there's anything we can do to help.


Thank you, Esther. It's hard to blame people for being secretive and afraid and susceptible to magical thinking and false hopes. It is scary, but the more I face up to things the better I feel.
Brandon: It turns out that Kaiser has its own infusion center, so I won't be going to the one your mother went to. When I see what it's like I'll let you know. Maybe you could come by there or something like that.


I've heard of many people who never smoked but got lung cancer. It is a different variety. Don't know if that's any comfort, though, to those with lung cancer. I hope you continue to bear up and fighting the good fight. And, please, keep us posted. Your readers are thinking good thoughts for you.


Your character in continuing to post in this manner frankly is worthy of immense respect and admiration. You certainly have mine. My dad battled lung cancer and I miss him every day. Praying for you


Thanks for keeping ups posted. Glad to hear you are managing well so far and hope the chemo goes smoothly. Hugs!


This reminds me of when my dad said he was terminal. "Don't cry," he said. I'm crying now, of course. This is so sad.


Thanks for the update Hattie. You've been in my thoughts.

I've been working on acceptance myself and your post inspires me. None of us are immortal. None of us know for whom the Bell tolls.

And it is better to know perhaps. Who knows?



Your manner of addressing this challenge is one I would like to believe I would follow myself if needed. I hope your treatments go well and I'll be thinking positive thoughts to send across the Pacific to you.

The people in Hawaii are indeed supportive, warm, compassionate as our family experienced many years ago on Oahu when my brother's first wife was diagnosed with a different cancer from yours. I strongly believe in palliative care when circumstances warrant that approach.

Meanwhile, there is no end to the intrigue that keeps emerging from D.C. You won't lack for topics any time you're inclined to share your welcome thoughts here.


Thanks for your kind thoughts and sympathy, everyone.


Thanks, as always, for your demonstration that equilibrium is possible. Hope the chemo goes well today.

So today is the Women's Strike. This seems highly distributed -- that means a few places (in North Carolina) are closing schools because the teachers are out. And many places, like here, are going, huh??? And all the usual stuff that happens when women try to coalesce: women asking, but am I included?

And the media amplify the divisions, which of course, are real. I am sick of "can I be a feminist if I'm 'pro-life'?" Of course, but that doesn't mean I think you can restrict the rights of others who think differently ...

As Bernice Johnson Reagan taught us 40 years ago, it is not a coalition if you are not scared of some of the people who are in it with you!

Will minimally be trying to get a pic or two of a women's press conference in SF today ...

Mage Bailey

Thanks...and please don't stop your posts. We care and this helps us.
My friend Michael had stage 4 lung cancer. His wife began a vegetarian diet, and he too began chemo and radiation thru Kaiser. Instead of the months he was given, he gained many years.


Your encouragement means so much to me this a. m. as I face my first day of chemo.


Hi Marianna,
I'm in California right now and about to return to Hawaii. I just found your post and don't know what to say. You've been in our thoughts and hearts and we've been hoping things were better. I see now that it's a lot more challenging than we were counting on. I am so in awe of your acceptance and courage in facing the trials ahead of you. Terry is a love and I'm glad you have him by your side. Please know that we are more than eager to help in any way we can whenever you're on Oahu. If there's anything you need from Oahu later this month, please let us know since we'll be landing in Hilo and staying at the Kilauea Military Camp.


Thank you for being so frank, so honest. We need people like you, facing life no matter what.
I hope chemo will be gentle on you.


Kay: I am hoping that you and Art will be able to come to our place for a visit. That would be the best. I love company but am too unwell to want to go anywhere unless I have to.
Sabine: There is so much fear and shame around cancer. And there is also the tendency to shy away from the facts where cancer is concerned. What keeps me going is the solid support I am getting from friends and family. I'm not alone with this. And,not being able to do much but read and blog, I do like feeling that what I write here is useful.


I'll try to visit soon. I hope the chemo today isn't too harsh.

Silver Willow

You are an amazing rock star. I am floored by your attitude. I know it will serve you, and all around you, well. :: hugs ::

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